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AM I BEING DUMPED?
Dear Dolores: I’ve been going steady with my novio for eight months. He’s 34 and I’m 25. I’m a professional track and field athlete about to get my degree in education. Out of the blue, he’s just told me he’s not sure he’s the man who could make me happy. He also said that since he has finished college and I have not, he has other plans and isn’t comfortable with our relationship. I have the impression he’s looking for excuses to dump me. I feel devastated. What do you think?
-Tania in California

Dear Tania: Any time somebody tells somebody “I don’t think I’m the man/woman who can make you happy,” you can kiss that relationship good bye. This code word for “I’m outta here” is as old as the hills and should be taught to boys and girls in the third grade. It’d save everyone a lot of grief. Just move on. Go run the marathon and sweat that guy out of your system. You have a lot to look forward to in your life and your carrera. And your heart will mend.
-Keep your eyes on the prize, D

TWO LOVERS
Dear Dolores: I need help in trying to make up my heart. I have two men in my life. They both know about each other but still say they love me and are willing to share my time and affection. My problem is, should I go along with their idea?
-Chanti in Chicago

Dear Chanti: Hmmm. Love triangles never really work, except as part of the plot in usually tragic movies. My feeling is that it’s hard enough to keep one good relationship going, never mind dos. Besides, it’s time consuming. On the other hand, it’s possible, without seriously committing yourself to one or the other, to go out with different people and have fun and get to know each other better. After a while, things may sort themselves out. However, the fact that this ménage a trois is not really your idea but theirs, brings a slight whiff of a rat into the atmosphere. If I were you, I’d take a break from both of them for a while and see who your heart really pines for.
-It takes only two to tango, m’ija, D

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