Divorce Detox co-founders, Allison Pescosolido, M.A. and Andra Brosh, Ph.D. weigh in and provide you with their top tips for building and maintaining a healthy relationship.
Almost everyone has been there at some point, and we all know it's never pleasant. "Devastation, loneliness and bitterness are some emotions that exist due to a breakup. We help our patients navigate through the healing process and to discover the secrets to moving on", says Dr. Andra Brosh.
So what can you do to avoid those painful breakups and remain in relationship bliss? It's time to get serious about how you handle things with your significant other. According to Pescosolido and Brosh, there are five things every woman should keep in mind no matter what. Read on and take note!
Use your head, not your hormones.
Who doesn't love a sexually charged relationship? But pure physical chemistry will only get you so far. If your goal is to have a healthy, long-term relationship then you must also think logically. "Look within, get to know thyself and determine the characteristics of your future partner. Use this knowledge to help you select eligible candidates to date", suggest Pescosolido and Brosh.
Keep conversation in the present.
It's very important to pay attention to how you interact on a date. What's the best way to gauge how things are going? "Look for the ease with which conversation flows. One of the most important things to look for is a 'natural fit'."
Don't talk about past relationships.
The past is the past, and that's exactly where it should stay. If you feel the need to vent about your former loves, that's what good friends are for. If what you seek is closure, then find a professional to help you. Whatever you do, do not drag your relationship woes to a date. If an "ex" discussion becomes unavoidable, the Divorce Detox experts suggest you refer to past relationships in only 1-2 sentences.
Listen and ask questions.
One of the best ways to figure out if he's for you is to pay attention to what he says.
"During the initial first dates, ask questions and observe your date to see if he is compatible with your lifestyle and has the characteristics you are looking for."
Be mature, not desperate.
It's normal to crave a healthy relationship, but you should always maintain a rational approach to dating. Otherwise your love life might turn into a big old mess. Our experts advise: "Don't confuse yearning for desperation. Even if it has been 'forever' since you have been in a quality relationship, desperate people usually are careless and do not make sound decisions."
What are your thoughts on relationships and breakups? Do you have any tried and true methods?
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